The aging process is often portrayed negatively as a time of decay and despair. With failing memories and physical deterioration and nothing positive to look forward to, why do we need high levels of financial support during this time?
I am studying for a psychology degree, and read with interest the ideas of a psychologist called Peck (1968). His ideas are based on a number of identity crises that we pass through as we age. Here they are:-
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Valuing wisdom versus valuing physical powers
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Socialising versus sexualising
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Flexibility in emotional attachments versus attachment impoverishment
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Mental flexibility versus mental rigidity
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Ego differentiation versus work-role preoccupation
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Body transcendence versus body preoccupation
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Ego transcendence versus ego preoccupation
So lots of long words and psycho-babble? Or is this really useful? Let me explain each of these crises in turn and I think you will see that they make sense and understanding each of them could help a lot of people through the aging process into a long and happy retirement.
Valuing wisdom versus valuing physical powers – this means coming to terms with loss of physical power and physical attractiveness. At the same time we gain skills in coming to informed decisions (wisdom) and should stop thinking of using physical abilities to solve problems.
Socialising versus sexualising – we need to stop thinking of others as potential sexual partners and start thinking about companionship
Flexibility in emotional attachments versus attachment impoverishment – the need to let go as children leave home and parents die. People have the opportunity for more diverse emotional relationships and friendships with both young and old
Mental flexibility versus mental rigidity – getting stuck in your ways needs to be avoided. Open your mind to new thoughts and opinions.
Ego differentiation versus work-role preoccupation – there is a need for older people to re-define themselves from bread-winner to some other worthwhile role in society
Body transcendence versus body preoccupation – this is the coming to terms with physical deterioration and learning to enjoy more mental tasks and relationships
Ego transcendence versus ego preoccupation – coming to terms with one’s own death and preparing to ensure good comes from it in a form of legacy
I personally enjoyed reading the thoughts of Peck. I can see these changes in old people I know. I can see that some have come to terms better than others with these changes. Knowing about them in advance should help mentally prepare for them.
I hope this post will be of help to you, and others you know who may be approaching middle age and the changes involved. Pass on the link as it may help!